P\u00ebrgatiti: Bashkim SALIASI
\nP\u00ebr dashurin\u00eb jan\u00eb dh\u00ebn\u00eb shum\u00eb versione nga shkrimtar e artist\u00eb t\u00eb ndrysh\u00ebm. K\u00ebng\u00ebt dhe let\u00ebrsia e vler\u00ebsojn\u00eb dashurin\u00eb nj\u00ebr\u00ebn nga emocionet m\u00eb t\u00eb fuqishme q\u00eb p\u00ebrjeton\u00eb njeriu.
\nDashuria \u00ebsht\u00eb imagjinat.
\nPara se t\u00eb flasim se \u00e7\u00ebsht\u00eb dashuria, si lind dhe ruhet apo shuhet ajo, do trajtoj\u00eb; \u00e7\u2019\u00ebsht\u00eb motivacioni i lindjes s\u00eb dashuris\u00eb? Motivacionet nxisin dhe drejtojn\u00eb sjelljen e individit p\u00ebr arritjen e disa q\u00ebllimeve.
\nEgzistojn\u00eb kat\u00ebr kategori kryesore motivesh: motivet biologjike; si uria, etja, rregullimi i temperatur\u00ebs, dhe uria seksuale, t\u00eb cilat kan\u00eb nj\u00eb baz\u00eb fiziologjike. Sjellja e motivuar nis dhe vazhdon t\u00eb drejtohet drejt\u00eb nj\u00eb q\u00ebllimi. Motivacioni \u00ebsht\u00eb forca q\u00eb nis dhe drejton sjelljen dhe ajo p\u00ebrcakton intesitetin dhe q\u00ebndrueshm\u00ebrin\u00eb e sjelljes son\u00eb.
\nMotivacioni i dashuris\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00eblqimi nga ana fizike, mendime dhe sjellje.
\nN\u00eb martes\u00eb dhe n\u00eb zgjidhjen e partnerit meshkujt dhe femrat kan\u00eb strategji t\u00eb ndryshme riprodhimi. Sipas k\u00ebsaj teorie, gj\u00ebja m\u00eb e keqe p\u00ebr nj\u00eb mashkull do ishte mbetja e partneres shtat\u00ebzan\u00eb nga dikush tjet\u00ebr, prandaj i duhet t\u00eb q\u00ebndroj\u00eb af\u00ebr saj n\u00ebnt\u00eb muaj p\u00ebr t\u2019u bindur q\u00eb pasardh\u00ebsi \u00ebsht\u00eb i tij. E kundrta ndodh me femr\u00ebn e cila k\u00ebrkon nj\u00eb part\u00ebner q\u00eb t\u00eb ket\u00eb pasuri, pun\u00eb, sht\u00ebpi dhe p\u00ebrkujdesje p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebn q\u00eb vjen\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00eb.
\nFroom e p\u00ebrkufizoi dashurin\u00eb si nj\u00eb shqet\u00ebsim aktiv p\u00ebr jet\u00ebn dhe rritjen e personit tjet\u00ebr. Ai p\u00ebrshkroi kat\u00ebr karakteristikat e dashuris\u00eb: njohurit\u00eb, kujdesin, p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsin\u00eb dhe respektin. Dashuria lind kur ne e kuptojm\u00eb tjetrin, kur shqet\u00ebsohemi p\u00ebr t\u00eb dhe kur e pranojm\u00eb p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsin\u00eb p\u00ebr ta ndihmuar at\u00eb me \u00e7do m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb mundemi. Sipas Rubin; grat\u00eb i p\u00eblqenin m\u00eb shum\u00eb part\u00ebner\u00ebt e tyre nga \u00e7\u2019p\u00eblqeheshin nga ata. Ai doli n\u00eb p\u00ebrfundim se kontakti me sy ishte nj\u00ebra nga shenjat m\u00eb t\u00eb sigurta t\u00eb dashuris\u00eb. Matjet n\u00eb dashuri kan\u00eb treguar se dashuria romantike \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e fort\u00eb se dashuria realiste.
\nDashuria romantike \u00ebsht\u00eb e fsheht\u00eb, e p\u00ebrjet\u00ebshme dhe ndodh vet\u00ebm nj\u00eb her\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e njeriut. Nj\u00eb zbulim interesan i realizuar nga Konx ishte se, njer\u00ebzit me mbi nj\u00ebzet\u00eb vjet\u00eb martes\u00eb shfaqin orientim romantik ndaj dashuris\u00eb.
\nDashuria romantike \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb p\u00ebrjetim i thell\u00eb emocional q\u00eb p\u00ebrfshin\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00ebn seksuale, lumturin\u00eb, shqet\u00ebsimin, haren\u00eb dhe delikates\u00ebn, t\u00eb cilat \u00e7ojn\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb dashuri t\u00eb q\u00ebndrueshme dhe t\u00eb p\u00ebrmbajtur.
\nNj\u00eb nd\u00ebr faktor\u00ebt q\u00eb zgjat\u00eb dashurin\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb dhe p\u00ebrjetimi i eksitimit fiziologjik, t\u00eb cil\u00ebs i v\u00ebm\u00eb emrin dashuri.
\nN\u00eb p\u00ebrjetimin e eksitimit fiziologjik ndikojn\u00eb past\u00ebrtia e oganeve gjenitale p\u00ebr t\u00eb dy sekset.
\nEdhe veshja bukur dhe higjena e lart\u00eb personale, japin ndihmes\u00ebn e vet n\u00eb lindjen e dashuris\u00eb dhe ruajtjen e saj.
\nKam ndjekur nga af\u00ebr nj\u00eb gjyq n\u00eb Shkod\u00ebr n\u00eb vitet q\u00eb vazhdoja studimet dhe nj\u00eb nd\u00ebr arsyet q\u00eb paraqiti part\u00ebnierja p\u00ebr t\u2019u ndar\u00eb nga i shoqi para trupit gjykues ishte; -\u201cSe im shoq nuk m\u00eb plot\u00ebson nevojat biologjike\u201d. At\u00ebher\u00eb mendova si adoleshent\u00eb se, gruaja po
\narsyetonte gabim, por sot gjykoj\u00eb ndryshe se, n\u00eb se part\u00ebner\u00ebt nuk ndjejn\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00ebri-tjetrin e humbasin dashurin\u00eb.
\nDashuria bashk\u00ebshortore sikund\u00ebr quhet ndryshe, dashuri e p\u00ebrmbajtur, karakterizohet nga nj\u00eb lidhje e thell\u00eb, besnik\u00ebri, respekt, p\u00ebrz\u00ebm\u00ebrsi, barazi e af\u00ebrsi.
\nDashuria bashk\u00ebshortore \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb dashuri afatgjat\u00eb n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie, ku vendin kryesor e z\u00ebn\u00eb miq\u00ebsia, p\u00ebrkushtimi dhe p\u00ebrshtatja intelektuale.<\/p>\n
N\u00eb se part\u00ebner\u00ebt humbasin dashurin\u00eb, marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet e tyre keq\u00ebsohen dhe ndjenja e dashuris\u00eb kthehet n\u00eb urrejtje. Ka plot\u00eb raste kur d\u00ebgjojm\u00eb se burri vrau gruan ose gruaja vrau burrin dhe arsyetoj\u00eb se nj\u00eb nd\u00ebr shkaqet \u00ebsht\u00eb tradh\u00ebtia bashk\u00ebshortore ose xhelozia.
\nSi biem n\u00eb dashuri? Dashuria romantike bazohet m\u00eb shum\u00eb n\u00eb p\u00eblqimin fizik. Njer\u00ebzit p\u00eblqejn\u00eb m\u00eb tep\u00ebr ata q\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb pash\u00ebm fizikisht, pra i p\u00ebrshtaten nj\u00ebri-tjetrit dhe p\u00ebrpiqen q\u00eb t\u00eb zgjedhin partnerin aq t\u00eb bukur sa jan\u00eb vet\u00eb.
\nNj\u00eb ndihmes\u00eb t\u00eb madhe n\u00eb r\u00ebnien n\u00eb dashuri japin filmat, k\u00ebng\u00ebt dashurore, mbr\u00ebmjet e vall\u00ebzimit, partet dhe rr\u00ebfimet p\u00ebr dashurin\u00eb. Komponent\u00ebt e dashuris\u00eb mb\u00ebshteten n\u00eb respektin, lumturin\u00eb, mir\u00ebkuptimin, mb\u00ebshtetjen dhe komunikimin intim midis part\u00ebnerve.
\nNj\u00eb faktor tjet\u00ebr q\u00eb \u00e7on n\u00eb r\u00ebnien n\u00eb dashuri \u00ebsht\u00eb dhe t\u00eb prekurit, i cili transmeton afeksion si psh, nj\u00eb prekje e leht\u00eb n\u00eb sup, nj\u00eb sht\u00ebrngim dore, nj\u00eb puthje, ose p\u00ebrqafim q\u00eb marrin kuptimin n\u00eb vart\u00ebsi t\u00eb seksit, \u00e7on n\u00eb lindjen e miq\u00ebsis\u00eb dhe m\u00eb
\nvon\u00eb kthehet n\u00eb dashuri.
\nDashuria e p\u00ebrkryer k\u00ebrkon q\u00eb t\u00eb veprojn\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb tre komponent\u00ebt. Njer\u00ebzit q\u00eb humbasin shqis\u00ebn e t\u00eb nuhaturit disa her\u00eb humbasin dhe interesin p\u00ebr seksin. \u00cbsht\u00eb zbuluar se kur grat\u00eb p\u00ebrdorin parfume q\u00eb shkaktojn\u00eb eksitime seksuale, rrisin aktivitetin seksual t\u00eb burrave. Kontakti me sy \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb tregues i r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm i dashuris\u00eb, por n\u00eb dashuri nj\u00eb vend t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm z\u00ebn\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha shqisat e tjera t\u00eb kontaktit midis llojeve.
\nLind pyetja: Cil\u00ebt jan\u00eb faktor\u00ebt q\u00eb \u00e7ojn\u00eb n\u00eb lindjen e dashuris\u00eb? Njer\u00ebzit jan\u00eb krijesa shoq\u00ebrore q\u00eb kan\u00eb nevoj\u00eb t\u00eb jetojn\u00eb s\u00eb bashku dhe i bashkojn\u00eb aft\u00ebsit\u00eb, ngjajshm\u00ebrit\u00eb dhe paraqitja fizike. Miq\u00ebist\u00eb lindin midis njer\u00ebzve q\u00eb jan\u00eb m\u00eb pran\u00eb nj\u00ebri-tjetrit, pra ata q\u00eb i takojm\u00eb p\u00ebrdit\u00eb. Zakonisht\u00eb njer\u00ebzit p\u00eblqejn\u00eb ata q\u00eb kan\u00eb parime morale t\u00eb ngjajshme, aft\u00ebsi intelektuale, interesa dhe parap\u00eblqime t\u00eb ngjajshme n\u00eb aktivitete. Pra, n\u00eb nj\u00eb far\u00eb m\u00ebnyre ne p\u00eblqejm\u00eb ata q\u00eb jan\u00eb si ne dhe kjo na jep mund\u00ebsin\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb ndjehemi t\u00eb qet\u00eb n\u00eb shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb e nj\u00ebri-
\ntjetrit. Dashuria nuk njeh mosh\u00eb. Ajo lind si nevoj\u00eb e t\u00eb dy sekseve t\u00eb cil\u00ebt kan\u00eb nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr mb\u00ebshtetjen e nj\u00ebri-tjetrit. Ata q\u00eb dashurojn\u00eb n\u00eb mosh\u00ebn e adoleshenc\u00ebs e ruajn\u00eb p\u00ebrjet\u00ebsisht\u00eb dashurin\u00eb.
\nDashuria e par\u00eb hedh\u00eb baza t\u00eb forta n\u00eb kujtes\u00ebn ton\u00eb dhe sa do q\u00eb t\u00eb mundohemi ta zvend\u00ebsojm\u00eb me nj\u00eb dashuri t\u00eb re p\u00ebrs\u00ebri mendimi shkon te dashuria e par\u00eb. Dashuria e par\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebshirim i realizimit t\u00eb ndjenjave p\u00ebr shokun e jet\u00ebs, e cila k\u00ebrkon
\np\u00ebrkushtim nga t\u00eb dy individ\u00ebt.
\nKush jan\u00eb shkaqet e prishjes s\u00eb dashuris\u00eb?
\n-Mosp\u00ebrputhja e mendimit p\u00ebr seks, t\u00eb cilat vij\u00eb si pasoj\u00eb e disa faktorve q\u00eb \u00e7ojn\u00eb n\u00eb prishjen e dashuris\u00eb.
\n-Nga higjena e part\u00ebneres ose part\u00ebnerit, e cila ul nevoj\u00ebn e t\u00eb b\u00ebrit sek.
\n-P\u00ebrdorimi i pijeve alkolike dhe duhanit \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb faktor tjet\u00ebr q\u00eb ul ndjeshm\u00ebrin\u00eb e seksit dhe si rezultat \u00e7on n\u00eb prishjen e dashuris\u00eb.
\n-Ruajtja e dashuris\u00eb vjen\u00eb si rezultat i mosplot\u00ebsimit t\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha nevojave midis dy part\u00ebner\u00ebve, t\u00eb cil\u00ebt kalojn\u00eb n\u00eb hat\u00ebrmbetje dhe xhelozi.
\n-Dashuiria ruhet dhe jeton si rezultat i p\u00ebrmbushjes s\u00eb d\u00ebshirave midis part\u00ebner\u00ebve n\u00eb \u00e7do koh\u00eb pa motivime.
\n-Dashuria midis dy part\u00ebner\u00ebve prishet si rezultat i xhelozis e cila mund t\u00eb shoq\u00ebrohet dhe me viktima.
\nS\u00eb fundi, t\u00eb jetosh me ndjenj\u00ebn e dashuris\u00eb, do t\u00eb thot\u00eb t\u00eb lumturohesh dhe jo t\u00eb hidh\u00ebrohesh. Uroj t\u00eb gjith\u00eb t\u00eb Dashuruarit, dashuri t\u00eb p\u00ebrjetshme…<\/p>\n
Tiran\u00eb\/ 13\/02\/2026<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
P\u00ebrgatiti: Bashkim SALIASI P\u00ebr dashurin\u00eb jan\u00eb dh\u00ebn\u00eb shum\u00eb versione nga shkrimtar e artist\u00eb t\u00eb ndrysh\u00ebm. K\u00ebng\u00ebt dhe let\u00ebrsia e vler\u00ebsojn\u00eb dashurin\u00eb nj\u00ebr\u00ebn nga emocionet m\u00eb t\u00eb fuqishme q\u00eb p\u00ebrjeton\u00eb njeriu. Dashuria \u00ebsht\u00eb imagjinat. Para se t\u00eb flasim se \u00e7\u00ebsht\u00eb dashuria, si lind dhe ruhet apo shuhet ajo, do trajtoj\u00eb; \u00e7\u2019\u00ebsht\u00eb motivacioni i lindjes s\u00eb dashuris\u00eb? […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":3473,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[8],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4016","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-opinione"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/migjeni.se\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4016","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/migjeni.se\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/migjeni.se\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/migjeni.se\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/migjeni.se\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4016"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/migjeni.se\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4016\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4017,"href":"https:\/\/migjeni.se\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4016\/revisions\/4017"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/migjeni.se\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3473"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/migjeni.se\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4016"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/migjeni.se\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4016"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/migjeni.se\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4016"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}